Divorce takes its’ toll

By Tamara Glanvill

Partner

11 October 2023

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It is no secret that divorce can be a very testing time for one’s mental health. It is regularly identified as one of life’s most stressful events. Such a significant change to day to day life inevitably comes with strong emotions at a time you are required to use your energy and focus to address the necessary practicalities and negotiations of the divorce process.

With so much else to think about it’s understandable that finding time for self-care might not be top of your agenda. And, even if you recognise the need to take good care of yourself, it’s not always easy to prioritise, particularly if you’re in the early stages of your divorce or things have become trickier to navigate than you hoped.

This is the time that even small acts of kindness towards yourself can help boost mental wellbeing. Whether you’re simply making the effort to eat and sleep well to avoid feeling run down, dedicating a little time to gathering your thoughts and preparing for what’s next, or creating a routine that helps navigate the day, the cumulative effect of these small, consistent steps can really add up to improve your overall wellbeing.

Obviously for many, their friends and family will provide some very important support during these times, but they may not always fully understand your experience and a neutral professional can add significant benefit.  We work with coaches and counsellors who can assist in supporting you through this process – and indeed can help with your ‘reset’ at the end of the divorce process.  There are a number of very well-regarded blogs, books and podcasts which will help recognise that you are not alone.

Grief is an often-overlooked aspect of divorce. With any significant life-altering change comes a period of adjustment and acceptance. Long after the divorce is concluded, many people need support in visualising their new life and adapting to the change.

Tips

Put yourself first: Making self-care a daily habit will pay off.  Undertake activities which bring you comfort and relaxation and allow you to clear your mind.

Set personal goals: Think about some of the things you’ve always wanted to try or learn more about? Are there any hobbies you used to love but haven’t had time to explore? This may be a good time to rediscover these and open up new opportunities.

Exercise: Engaging in physical activity is important – especially if you’re feeling low or overwhelmed. Even a short walk releases stress, boosts mood, and supports your mental wellbeing.

Diet: Maintain a balanced diet to fuel your body and mind. Focus on foods that provide energy and help stabilise your emotions; it can in itself be an act of self-care to make yourself something nourishing to eat.

Sleep Hygiene: We all know that sleep is central to wellbeing, but can be hard to come by when feeling stressed. Getting exposure to sunlight in the morning can help you sleep at night because it helps reset your body’s inner “sleep clock.” Establish a calming bedtime routine and create a sleep-conducive environment for rejuvenating rest.

Connection: Maintain strong social connections with friends and family who can provide support, understanding and distraction.

Reach out: If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. We can help direct you to some excellent coaches and counsellors.

If you would like to discuss your options regarding a divorce, our experienced Family team would be happy to help. Please get in touch via email or call your nearest office.

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